Seeing that the end of the year is coming again, I believe many parents are busy paying for the renewal of their children’s various early education classes, and they are embarrassed to say that they have children unless they report to two or three extracurricular classes.
Teach children to read a lot of picture books in advance; Teach children pinyin, literacy, English and arithmetic in advance, and regard learning knowledge as early education … … Nowadays, many parents don’t really understand the purpose of early education, thinking that early education is to develop children’s intelligence, that is, to teach children to do things in primary schools, even middle schools and even universities in advance. This concept is wrong.
Developing intelligence is important for children’s development, but the key factor that determines how far a child can go in society in the future is his character. It is more important for children to participate in future social life with a healthy attitude, cheerful mood and cooperative spirit, and to have certain practical ability and good language expression than excellent grades.
We can’t just pay attention to what children learn today, but think about whether these things taught today will affect children’s lives in 10 years, 20 years, 30 years, 50 years or even 70 years. Therefore, in line with the purpose of lifelong sustainable development, preschool education should make more efforts to cultivate personality quality. Have you "unlocked" the following 8 skills for your baby?
First, develop basic viability
Survival ability includes 12 aspects: eating, drinking, pulling, scattering, sleeping, wearing, combing, wearing, wiping, hygiene, working and tidying, all of which are indispensable. In life, some children just lack this basic survival ability.
When I was working in the experimental primary school of Beijing Normal University, I encountered such a situation. Some parents asked, "Principal, what’s the matter? The water that the child brought in the morning has not been drunk until now. Don’t you teach children to drink water in your primary school? "
Parents, didn’t your children learn to drink water until they were 6 years old? Later, I found through observation that children can’t drink water because their parents didn’t teach them right. When does a person need to drink water and drink when he is thirsty? Wrong. Drink only when you are thirsty, eat only when you are hungry, excrete only when you are suffocated, rest only when you are tired, sleep only when you are sleepy, lose weight only when you are fat, and go to see a doctor when you are sick. In these seven States, your body is overdrawn and your cells have been damaged. Therefore, parents must teach their children to replenish water in time. If the children are not taught to drink water actively in the kindergarten class, the teacher will not organize the children to drink water in a unified way until they go to primary school.
Take "wipe" as an example. "Wipe" means to wipe the fragrance. In winter and spring, especially in the north, the skin must be covered with something protective, otherwise it will chapped when the wind blows. Therefore, we must teach our children to do their own protection.
Second, form good living habits
Once a habit is formed, it is very difficult to change it. A large number of psychological studies tell us that a child’s living habits in kindergarten will definitely migrate to his study habits after he goes to school. That is to say, if his living habits are in a mess in kindergarten, don’t expect his study habits to be good in the future.
Habits accompany children all their lives, and good habits are inexhaustible wealth for children all their lives; Bad habits are debts that children can’t pay off all their lives.
Tagore once said, sowing habits, harvesting life; Li Ka-shing said, sowing habits make a career. Be sure to help your child develop good living habits before he is 6 years old.
3. Build self-esteem and confidence.
American psychologist Erickson’s research on social psychology tells us that there are a pair of contradictions in every different period of human life. At the age of 4 to 6, when the child is in kindergarten, this contradiction is a contradiction between initiative and guilt.
If the child develops well in all aspects, he will actively and actively participate in activities; If he doesn’t develop well, he will feel guilty and retreat, and he is an evasive attitude towards everything. How to stimulate children’s initiative during this critical period?
The method is actually very simple, that is, during this period, parents and teachers should give their children more encouragement.
A confident child has pride and self-esteem, and does not need to whip himself. If parents don’t have to take care of some things, he will take the initiative to do it. Such a child will be self-reliant, and a self-reliant child will be self-reliant in the future.
A confident child will encounter more setbacks and difficulties in his life in the future. He is strong inside, he has a sense of happiness and a quality life. A child without self-confidence has no strength, no matter how much property his parents leave him. He is too weak inside and his life has no quality.
Learn to cooperate and live in harmony with others.
Now many parents are only children. Two only children together, and gave birth to an only child. Children have no companions to get along with at home, and without this kind of experience transfer, they will lack a lot of things. Learning how to get along with peers is a very important reason for sending children to kindergarten. In kindergarten, children gradually learn to live in a collective life and get along with others.
When Xixi in our family went to kindergarten, there was no tissue paper. Everyone used handkerchiefs, but we let our children take that kind of rolled toilet paper to school every day.
We will tell her that when a child needs it, you can give it to him or help him use it, so we will be very happy. Which child has a runny nose or is sweating, which child is crying or bleeding, just take some paper and wipe it for him.
Especially when a child is crying, all you have to do is wipe his tears with paper, then hug him, pat him on the back and whisper in his ear: I know you are very upset now, I can understand, shall we work something out together?
This is what I taught my child. I have done it since I was a child. She joined the kindergarten halfway, but later, she can make many good friends. Therefore, there are some things that we have to teach our children.
Cultivate correct values.
For the sake of children’s lifelong sustainable development, we should help children cultivate universal values. It is to let the child recognize as much as possible, and let his values be similar to those of others, so that he can be accepted by others.
Parents may not pay attention to this problem. Some children are lonely, have no playmates and are marginalized by their peers. In many cases, their values are different from others.
Lu cultivates positive feelings of loving artistic beauty in life.
Let children know that the love of beauty is a realm. Although the child can’t see the flowers or beautiful hairpin on her head, she has a beautiful hairpin in her heart. From the perspective of mental health, such a child will never get depression, because she has a sense of happiness in her heart. It is a kind of realm for women to please themselves and create a good-looking atmosphere for others.
From the point of view of mental health, a person knows how to spend some time for himself every day, which shows that he is not mean and tolerant of himself. He understands the taste of life and has an emotional appeal, which is cultivated from an early age.
We often see that some people are very good-looking, but lack temperament, which can not be compensated by having money to buy various decorations to wear on their bodies. And some people are plain-looking, but outstanding in temperament, and we can feel the taste and quality of life from him.
In addition to leading children to pursue visual beauty, they should also be encouraged to pursue auditory enjoyment and know how to appreciate beautiful melodies and melodious rhythms. Creating beauty while experiencing beauty, starting from an early age, his future life will be tasteful and quality, and he will live in a mood and artistic conception every day.
It is difficult to cultivate a person’s aesthetics. As parents, we should work hard and actively to help children cultivate.
Cultivate sports interest
Let children learn simple health knowledge, teach them how to pay attention to their own health and strengthen physical exercise. A healthy body will benefit children all their lives.
Develop cognitive ability
Cognition includes stimulating children’s curiosity and willingness to learn, enriching individual creativity and imagination, and cultivating the ability to find and solve problems.
Five areas to promote children’s development are put forward in the Guiding Outline of Kindergarten Education: health, language, society, science and art. Kindergartens that truly meet the national standards must carry out education and teaching activities along these five fields.
Early education should be based on the long-term and avoid quick success and instant benefit. As stated in the "Guidelines for Kindergarten Education", the combination of conservation and education promotes the development of children’s sensory and motor abilities, and forms and develops language; Develop good living habits, cultivate learning interest and good learning quality, understand social rules, and promote healthy development of body and personality. (Text/Qian Zhiliang Illustration of Beijing Normal University/In)
